On the flip side, my thoughtful hubby was trying to give me a compliment the other day but he ended up accidentally hurting my feelings! I was changing clothes and he said something to the effect of "You're looking great...your underwear isn't holding on for dear life anymore!" It was nice he noticed a difference, but man...that end comment stung.
He definitely did not mean anything mean--he was genuinely trying to say something nice. Sadly enough, the underwear in question were actually new and purchased when I was at the highest weight and I got a fitting done to make sure they fit so I really don't think they ever looked like they were hanging on for dear life (I hope not at least!). Truthfully, I think it was more his perception of how I looked in the underwear (knowing I was overweight and thus seeing them being too tight) rather than the reality. Either way, it was very difficult for me to focus on the positive part of his words but I made a very strong effort to. Why? Because in the past I chose to look at the negative which would always make me depressed and I'd run to the freezer and grab the ice cream or purposely ditch a workout because I was feeling angry or upset. Where's the logic in that?
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How do you stay focused on the positive?